I believe that being romantic is the fuel that keeps the flames of love alive and burning. Romance, to me, is demonstrating that you really understand someone. Romance feeds the elements that comprise a loving relationship. Without it, desire and adoration for one another will almost assuredly fade, rendering the relationship dull and mundane. Understanding the importance of practicing romance in your relationships will add spark to your love life, prolong feelings of disconnectedness & result in your ultimate happiness for years to come. I think the most romantic thing is when you show you’re listening and do something totally unprompted. Creating breath taking memories in your relationship is something every woman thinks about, but just a few men deliver. I’m going to show you right now how to simplify the process and maximize the results. Casanova Style…

BEING ROMANTIC #1: SMALL GESTURES

Small gestures convey affection, adoration, thoughtfulness, and love, is as simple as 1, 2, 3, don’t over-complicate things. You don’t need to ask her, just look and listen. Does she get up every morning and make herself a cup of coffee before work? Get up before her and make that cup of coffee for her (Is not that freaking difficult), also while we are on the subject rub her back or feets when she gets home from work.

BEING ROMANTIC #2: SHOW AFFECTION

Another thing women find romantic is when men give out expressions of interest. But men have to handle this a little bit delicate as women don’t respond well when they see overwhelming expressions of love that feel premature to them.It’s sometimes better if you’re a little more genuine with her and instead of telling her: “I so in love with you,” without having the grounding basis for this outstanding confession, you tell her instead: “I like you a lot.” She will respond better to this and it will make you look more grounded and less creepy.

BEING ROMANTIC #3: BE HELPFUL

If you want to be romantic, then you have to be able to read your loved one’s mind and to know when she needs you to help out a bit by doing small things. Though you may not think running to the grocery store to pick up a few day’s worth of groceries when she is busy is very romantic, it actually shows that you’re thoughtful and attentive to her needs.

BEING ROMANTIC #4: BE SPONTANEOUS

While being romantic can certainly have a positive effect on Valentine’s Day and or her birthday, if your gesture is self-initiated (meaning it happened because you decided to make it happen and not because the calendar told you you should be romantic) then it is that much more powerful. Sending her flowers just because. Doing the dishes because you know it will make her life easier. Mailing her a random “thank you for being my partner” card even if you live together will have an amazing impact. Taking the initiative in your love life will always be appreciated, so do it.

BEING ROMANTIC #5: BE CREATIVE AND SWEET

Remind her of your love for her in unique ways. Text her “You’re gorgeous” out of nowhere. Pass her a crumpled up note while you’re watching your shows together that has an innocent message like “You’re my favorite”. Leave her a Post-It note in her wallet that says “I’m thinking about you, and I hope you are having a fantastic day. Why do I hope that? Because intelligent, compassionate, beautiful women like you deserve to have fantastic days – that’s why! Love you”’

I’m Alex Mercedes and romance isn’t dead. But some guys sense of romance is. A thriving relationship is one where two awesome people come together and say “I’m going to make you feel as happy, understood, and appreciated as possible, all the time.” At the end of the day, she just wants to know that you are thinking of her, and at the end, with a little bit of effort and romance, you can have a more fulfilling love life.

If you enjoyed reading this be sure to check my other post about “10 Ways to Keep a Woman Madly in Love.” There are a lot of useful information there that I’m sure you will find very helpful in your own love life.