In the beginning of a relationship, tiny things like falling asleep next to each other or laughing together are the key factors in falling in love. Then, several weeks or months in, you can do the exact same things and feel nothing. That’s why understanding how to keep her in love is absolutely critical for any guy looking to make his relationship last. Casanova Style…

KEEP HER IN LOVE #1: TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER

This is something that most men have trouble with. They might love a woman, respect her and think that she is absolutely amazing, but from there to actually expressing it to her is a whole different story for them. Tell her how you feel for her. This means actually saying the words to her so she completely understands and doesn’t have any doubt about it. Trust me she wants to hear how you feel for her every time that you can tell her.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #2: SHOW HER YOUR APPRECIATION

Let’s face it – She is awesome! And she needs to hear this more often! Sometimes when a man is with a woman romantically for an extended period of time, those gestures appreciation are often forgotten. Whether you’re the affectionate type or not, showing her a daily dose of your appreciation can do wonders. This might sound silly but things like asking about her day and listening what she has to say. Making breakfast in bed from time to time. Rubbing her feet’s at night. Giving her oral more often. These are little things for you to do that would mean a whole lot to her.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #3: DON’T TAKE HER FOR GRANTED

Don’t take her feelings for granted just because you are scared of commitment, she shouldn’t be punished for your insecurity. If you’ve been with her for a while, you develop a sense of who she is and what she can accomplish. She offers you stability, dependability, support and makes your life easier, By taking her for granted you’re telling her that you don’t value her enough, and she can feel taken advantage of, resentful and frustrated. If she is giving you too much attention. Just consider yourself lucky because maybe she loves you so much that she doesn’t want anyone else to take her place in your life.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #4: ENCOURAGE HER

When she is negative or down, try to stay on the positive side for her and try to cheer her up. She is always there to give you her words of encouragement, you likely want to return the favor and show her that you care. Giving her the right compliments may be the key to brighten her day and give her the boost of confidence that she needs. Letting her know that she is a role model for you can be encouraging. Tell her how she inspires you to do new things to boost her mood, and counteract those negative feelings that she is having by saying something positive. Remind her of something she accomplished in the past. By Acknowledging her accomplishments you can encourage her and let her know her value.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #5: DON’T GET JEALOUS FOR NO VALID REASON

She is with you, right? If you’re jealous every time she wants to go have a night out with her friends or have lunch with a co-worker, you’re only gonna shut down any kind of meaningful communication if someone else ever does come along. Seriously calm down! Keep your insecurities in check. If you’re jealous instead of accusing her and making a scene, try this: “Tell her that you’re jealous and the reason why”. You’d be surprised at how well communication can work if you just talk to her.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #6: DON’T MAKE A SIMPLE ARGUMENT A WAR

Never, ever betray your intimacy in a fight by getting personal. You know each other’s weaknesses and secrets. You have the power to hurt your significant other. Don’t ever use it. It’s easy to get caught up in anger and say things you don’t mean in the heat of the moment, but that doesn’t make it okay. It’s a huge violation of trust that will cause damage that you will not be able to repair. Try to understand the issue; try to understand each other. Fight the problem together as a unit.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #7: TELL HER SHE IS BEAUTIFUL

Telling a woman she’s beautiful is one of the nicest compliments you can ever give her. And she loves it more and more every time she hears it from you, so just say it. The first step is the simplest one of all. Just start by telling her she looks good. Also say it often. Don’t save those sweet words for special occasions. Tell her how beautiful she looks as often as you can, but not to the point that she stops taking you seriously. Not only will your words elevate her mood, but you will also bring up her confidence. Remember that when a woman feels confident she will feel sexy, and when she feels sexy, everyone wins, especially you.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #8: MAKE TIME FOR HER

Whether it’s a date night out in town, or couch time watching Netflix home it doesn’t matter, what matter is that it makes you feel closer, more connected and more in love than you were prior to that moment. Spending quality time together is an essential part of keeping a relationship happy and connected. The amount of the quality time is also irrelevant, as long as you do it often enough to keep the relationship feeling good. The success of your quality time together is not about how much time you spend together, but what you do with it.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #9: BE PATIENT WITH HER

Maybe she mentioned to you that her last relationship didn’t end well. Or, maybe she didn’t have to say anything, but through her actions and attitude, you’re able to gather bits and pieces about her painful past. She wants to love you, and for you to love her, but she’s been hurt enough in the past to know that not everyone lives up to their first impressions. She’s been deceived and lied to enough times that she’ll take her time while getting to know you. For whatever reason, you have to be patient with her and take it at her own pace.

KEEP HER IN LOVE #10: RESPECT HER

Talk to her in a courteous way. Put another way, don’t talk trash to her. Don’t swear, tell her dirty jokes, or use filthy words around her. Making jokes about her body is never appropriate either or talking behind her back. Never texts her with cruel or biting comments, and be there to defend her when somebody hurt her. Respect provides encouragement and makes her want to love you even more. Speak well of her. Don’t belittle her to your friends or make her feel unnecessary or incapable.

I’m Alex Mercedes and keep in mind that she can fall out of love with you as quick and simple as she falls in love with you. Having the same routine day in and day out is going to make the relationship feel like is not progressing and love can slowly fade. That’s why you always have to show her that you love her. Appreciate her and dedicate time to make her fall in love with you like if were the first time she did.